Season 1 · Episode 40 · March 11, 2026 · 36 min
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The Quiet Sabotage: Passive-Aggressive and Avoidant Patterns
Podcast Description
Earlier this year, Mike Baker began a series inside Still Here, Still Trying exploring the personality patterns that shape relationships, leadership, and the environments we live and work in.
The first conversation in the series, “God Complex: Narcissism in Life and Leadership,” looked at the louder pattern. Ego, control, and the need to dominate the room.
This episode turns to something quieter… and often more confusing.
Passive-aggressive and avoidant behavior.
The moments when someone says everything is fine, but their actions tell a completely different story. Agreement without commitment. Sarcasm instead of honesty. Silence used as control. Resistance that shows up sideways instead of being spoken out loud.
In this episode Mike explores:
• Why passive-aggressive patterns develop
• How fear and conflict avoidance shape behavior
• What these patterns look like in families, friendships, and workplaces
• The quiet damage they cause to trust and communication
• How leaders and individuals respond with clarity instead of escalation
This conversation is part of a broader Personality Patterns series Mike is building this year as he develops ideas for his next book on human-first leadership.
No diagnoses.
No labels.
Just honest exploration of behaviors that shape how people connect, lead, and build trust.
The episode closes with Mike’s song “Scared People Build Walls,” a reflection on how fear can lead people to protect themselves in ways that ultimately push connection away.
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