There is a lot here. Books, essays, songs, artwork, a podcast, advocacy work, twenty-five years of running a community health center. People arrive from all of it, and almost never for the same reason.
So rather than hand you a menu, what brought you here?
Someone I love has endometriosis, and I don't know how to help.
This is the work I get the most mail about. My wife has endometriosis. For years I did what supportive husbands are told to do. Research, advocate, fix. I overcorrected so hard that I made her illness my project. Somebody eventually had to tell me my awakening was not the point.
Read: Women Should Not Have to Lose a Decade Before We Believe Them
Use: I Believe You, plus the Partner Toolkit, Appointment Prep, and Questions for Your Doctor. Free, no email required, always.
I lead something, and it's heavier than I expected.
I run a community health center. Mission and margin pull opposite directions most weeks, and nobody hands you a model for deciding between them. I write about leading under that kind of pressure without becoming someone you'd rather not work for.
Read: Get Out of the Way
Go deeper: the talks
Life is pulling at me and I'm trying to stay a person through it.
This is the middle of everything I write. Grief, attention, caregiving, the ordinary days nobody circles on a calendar.
Read: One-Thirty in the Morning. Seventeen minutes, and the one I'd pick.
I'm losing someone slowly, or I already have.
Anticipatory grief is its own country and almost nobody writes a map for it.
Read: Everyone I Met Told Me About Someone They Loved
Go deeper: Still My Mom
I'm trying to figure out what to hand a machine and what to keep.
I use these tools. I also run an organization where the wrong answer costs somebody something real. I'm interested in a usable line, not a position.
Read: The Human Voice in AI Work
Go deeper: The Future Still Needs Us · how I work with AI
My brain won't sit still and I've stopped apologizing for it.
Thirteen books, a pile of records, and a day job. People call that discipline. It is closer to architecture, and I’d rather talk about how it actually works than pretend it's a productivity system.
Start with: Beautifully Unfocused · the album of the same name
I just want to know where to start reading.
Fair. There are thirteen books and that is genuinely too many to walk into cold. Start with the one that has the clearest reason to exist: Believe Her the First Time.
Browse: all the books · the Resource Library
I came for the music, or the artwork.
Most of the records started as something I couldn't say in an essay.
Listen: the music · discography
Look: the artwork
I'm looking for a speaker, or a guest for my show.
Both doors are real and both go to a form, not a gatekeeper.
Conferences and organizations: Speaking
Podcasts and press: Interviews · Press